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A toasting fork and a villa in Tuscany

5/29/2018

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While having a clean out recently I found the toasting fork we used in my childhood home. In an instant I was back in the weatherboard cottage where I grew up. It was a small house with only six rooms, a lounge room, dining room, kitchen, two bedrooms, the tiniest keep-your-elbows-in-when-you’re-getting-dried bathroom and a toilet in the backyard.
 
The dining room had the only table in the house so became the centre of the home. There we ate our meals, entertain guests, did our homework, and my mother, who was a dressmaker, made wedding dresses to order. I remember the old leadlight dresser that held our china and cutlery, the ice chest, which kept our food chilled before refrigeration and the gaslight on the wall, which we lit during blackouts that came with monotonous regularity.
 
The only heating in the house was a gas fire, with ceramic candles that glowed red when they were heated. In winter I volunteered to make the toast each morning, holding the bread on the toasting fork in front of the fire so I could get warm. Sometimes we’d toast crumpets which we ate dripping with butter and honey. On cold winter evenings we often toasted raisin bread for supper and on special occasions we had toasted marshmallows with hot chocolate.
 
Oh the memories that old fork rekindled … the warmth of the fire, the chatter and laughter around the table and even the taste of toasted thickly sliced bread, which the baker had deliver that day, with lashings of homemade jam or honey.
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Scientists tell us that the human brain’s memory storage capacity is approximately 2.5 million gigabytes and memories are stored, not as a single memory but in different regions of the brain – smell, emotions, visual, spatial, auditory etc. We remember by association, such as the sight of the toasting fork, and then the brain connects all the different parts to make a complete memory. We have an average of 70,000 thoughts a day, that’s a lot of memory to store.
 
Triggers to memory come in all shapes and sizes but they are usually associated with our senses. In 2007, my cousin and I had a week in a villa just south of Florence, in Tuscany. Set on a hill, the villa looked out across olive groves, vineyards and the lush Tuscan countryside with almost 360-degree vistas. The rooms were spacious with high ceilings and rich, vibrant colours on the walls and furnishings. We ate in a courtyard surrounded by pots of brilliant red geraniums and grape vine draped arbors.
 
Now whenever I use the special soap I used on that trip, the fragrance brings back memories of the villa, the fun times I had with my cousin, the sights, the tastes and the colours of Tuscany. Smell is the most powerful of all triggers evidently because we have at least 1,000 different types of smell receptors but only four types of light sensors and about four types of receptors for touch.
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And memories return at often the most unexpected moments and sometimes with the most powerful emotions. Last week music did that for me.
 
I was staying with friends last Sunday and went with them to their historic, stone country church. The organ was very old but the organist had a magic touch. I was transported by the music and after the service I went to thank him. Before I could utter a word, I burst into tears, to my surprise, and his. Then I heard myself saying, “You remind me of my father, he was a pianist and organist and played with the same style, passion and sensitivity as you”. Hearing that music brought my father to ‘life’ again for me and I was overwhelmed by the memories.
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What a complex and wonderful thing memory is. It connects our past with our present and provides the road map of our life. Oscar Wilde says, “Memory is the diary we all carry with us.” It's the diary we write everyday; the sum total of the pain and the richness of life, stitched together into the fabric of our existence.
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But memory is so much more. It’s the road map for our resurrection life. Jesus promised, “ The Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, He will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you”. And not just his Word and his promises but the way he has provided in the past, his unfailing love and goodness over the years that have become my foundation for trusting him for the future. He reminds me of the lessons of the past that I need to relearn again and again and again. Memory is a part of the gift of faith.

Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all His benefits!” Psalm 103:2
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6 Comments
Scott
5/28/2018 06:53:28 pm

Delightful photos and wonderful words. Good memories.

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Jemima?
6/1/2018 02:32:59 am

I really liked that story an especially because dad read it to me after we toasted marshmallows by the fire together

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Glenyss
6/2/2018 03:28:36 pm

So glad you liked the story Jemima. I hope when you are as old as me, you will remember the wonder of toasting marshmallows in front of the fire with your family - the crunchy outside and the gooey inside, all warm and sweet and the fun and love of a family enjoying time together. Treasure every precious memory and create more and more times that are worth remembering. Love Grandma Glen.

Glenyss
6/2/2018 03:30:48 pm

Thanks, Scott. Creating memories, some of the greatest gifts we can give. I love the way you are doing that for your family.

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Peter Stanton
5/31/2018 04:52:42 pm

Absolutely superb, slow journey down the twists and turns of memory lane..one of your best blogs...again thank you Glen...the tears flowed...

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Glenyss
6/2/2018 03:34:32 pm

Thank you, Pete. Memories are one of the greatest gifts of life ... making them, sharing them and reliving the moments. They become more precious with every passing year.

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    ​I'm a mother and grandmother who loves  discovering beauty in unexpected places.

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